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Thursday, April 29, 2010

The damage that unresolved issues can cause...

*Taking from an article on dealing with healthy & unhealthy anger:
When Expressing Anger Crosses the Line
Anger is a powerful emotion that can be a healthy expression of strong feelings that result in a constructive outcome. When anger is felt too intensely, too frequently, or is expressed inappropriately it can damage important relationships and create a cycle of conflict for the individual experiencing anger's emotional control.
When anger is associated with negative consequences, such as violence, road rage, verbal abuse, threats, physical damage (broken objects) repeated interpersonal conflicts, or anger-related health problems (e.g., exacerbated ulcer, headaches, muscle tension) it is no longer a healthy expression. If angry outbursts are affecting your family, friends or coworkers, then it is time to consider more appropriate responses to prevent damaging relationships or doing something you may regret. There is no clear boundary differentiating "normal" anger from problem anger. However, if how you express anger bothers you (or should bother you), gets you into trouble, or is damaging relationships, it may be time to consider getting help with anger management.
Men and women may express anger differently. For instance, anger is more socially acceptable in males, and is often expressed physically through fighting. Women are more likely to talk about their feelings of anger and problem-solve with others. Relationships can be difficult from time to time. People disappoint one another, say and do hurtful things, and can be hard to get along with. Identifying a problem in your relationship while it is occurring can be complicated because relationship dissatisfaction is experienced differently by those involved in the relationship. It goes without saying that certain actions, like violating a law or a code of honor generally upsets most people. Many individuals can easily work through minor differences, but sometimes a series of minor issues can build up over time and become a relationship issue. 

Here are some important relationship facts:
  • People who are in romantic relationships tend to be happier than those who are single.1
  • Difficulties getting along with a boss or coworkers can impact work performance.
  • Couples experiencing marital problems tend to be less nurturing and their children are more likely to exhibit behavioral and emotional problems.2
  • Regular healthy social contact can be a buffer for depression.
  • Important relationships can be good sources of support when experiencing positive or negative life events.
  • Distressed couples experience a number of negative emotions such as anger and jealousy, or psychiatric problems such as depression and anxiety.2
Interpersonal, physical, sexual, or emotional abuse is a clear sign of a relationship in trouble. There are many types of relationships that exists, and it's always important to acknowledge these signs before they reach their breaking point, thus damaging important relationships that have long-term-meaningful potential.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

When a woman's fed up...

I'm sure many of us can testify to the fact of just simply being fed up with certain things in ya life, right? What is the best remedy for dealing with such an irritable time and place in ya life! I know the first thing that comes to my mind is prayer, because our emotions - if we allow them to - can and definitely will get the best of us! I'm not even sure if the way I'm feeling is accurate or if I am simply overwhelmed right now, but I know one thing for sure, I cannot continue to deal with this emotion without firmly addressing it! Scripture say's...
Phillipians 4:7
"6In nothing be anxious; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."  

It's not healthy for anyone to hold negative thoughts or feelings inside carrying those burdens around, they're deadly like cancer! Stress can and will eat away at your life mentally, emotionally and physically also! Well in saying all this, let me go and pray -  so I can release this to the Lord and not take it out on anyone else! This way when I am ready to express it, it will come out in an appropriate manner, while I remain considerate of the other person's feelings as well!

Until next time, God bless ~Tiffany

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