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Thursday, April 29, 2010

The damage that unresolved issues can cause...

*Taking from an article on dealing with healthy & unhealthy anger:
When Expressing Anger Crosses the Line
Anger is a powerful emotion that can be a healthy expression of strong feelings that result in a constructive outcome. When anger is felt too intensely, too frequently, or is expressed inappropriately it can damage important relationships and create a cycle of conflict for the individual experiencing anger's emotional control.
When anger is associated with negative consequences, such as violence, road rage, verbal abuse, threats, physical damage (broken objects) repeated interpersonal conflicts, or anger-related health problems (e.g., exacerbated ulcer, headaches, muscle tension) it is no longer a healthy expression. If angry outbursts are affecting your family, friends or coworkers, then it is time to consider more appropriate responses to prevent damaging relationships or doing something you may regret. There is no clear boundary differentiating "normal" anger from problem anger. However, if how you express anger bothers you (or should bother you), gets you into trouble, or is damaging relationships, it may be time to consider getting help with anger management.
Men and women may express anger differently. For instance, anger is more socially acceptable in males, and is often expressed physically through fighting. Women are more likely to talk about their feelings of anger and problem-solve with others. Relationships can be difficult from time to time. People disappoint one another, say and do hurtful things, and can be hard to get along with. Identifying a problem in your relationship while it is occurring can be complicated because relationship dissatisfaction is experienced differently by those involved in the relationship. It goes without saying that certain actions, like violating a law or a code of honor generally upsets most people. Many individuals can easily work through minor differences, but sometimes a series of minor issues can build up over time and become a relationship issue. 

Here are some important relationship facts:
  • People who are in romantic relationships tend to be happier than those who are single.1
  • Difficulties getting along with a boss or coworkers can impact work performance.
  • Couples experiencing marital problems tend to be less nurturing and their children are more likely to exhibit behavioral and emotional problems.2
  • Regular healthy social contact can be a buffer for depression.
  • Important relationships can be good sources of support when experiencing positive or negative life events.
  • Distressed couples experience a number of negative emotions such as anger and jealousy, or psychiatric problems such as depression and anxiety.2
Interpersonal, physical, sexual, or emotional abuse is a clear sign of a relationship in trouble. There are many types of relationships that exists, and it's always important to acknowledge these signs before they reach their breaking point, thus damaging important relationships that have long-term-meaningful potential.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

When a woman's fed up...

I'm sure many of us can testify to the fact of just simply being fed up with certain things in ya life, right? What is the best remedy for dealing with such an irritable time and place in ya life! I know the first thing that comes to my mind is prayer, because our emotions - if we allow them to - can and definitely will get the best of us! I'm not even sure if the way I'm feeling is accurate or if I am simply overwhelmed right now, but I know one thing for sure, I cannot continue to deal with this emotion without firmly addressing it! Scripture say's...
Phillipians 4:7
"6In nothing be anxious; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."  

It's not healthy for anyone to hold negative thoughts or feelings inside carrying those burdens around, they're deadly like cancer! Stress can and will eat away at your life mentally, emotionally and physically also! Well in saying all this, let me go and pray -  so I can release this to the Lord and not take it out on anyone else! This way when I am ready to express it, it will come out in an appropriate manner, while I remain considerate of the other person's feelings as well!

Until next time, God bless ~Tiffany

Friday, April 23, 2010

By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let

them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying
with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied

to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest

that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would
have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not

joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part

in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in
your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.. You've
got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something.. I've got the

gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in
good-bye.. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know
whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too
much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never

intended for your life, then you need to......


If you are holding on to past hurts and pains .......


If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth.......


If someone has angered you.


If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.....


If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction... ..


If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents


If you have a bad attitude.... ...


If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......


If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in



If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship. ....


If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves..



If you're feeling depressed and stressed ............


If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself

and God is saying 'take your hands off of it,' then you need


'The Battle is the Lord's!'

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Be stable-minded...

But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
James 1:6 KJV

Today's Word
If there’s one thing that can lead you down a road away from your potential and seeing the awesome plan God has for your life, it’s your emotions. Emotions are God-given, but oftentimes, people allow their circumstances to dictate their emotions and thoughts instead of the Word of God.
When we allow our circumstances to dictate our emotions, when we get upset by what we see or hear, it opens the door for doubt and fear to come in. The Bible says that when we allow doubt and fear in, we become unstable. We are tossed back and forth. But understand that the way you feel today has little to do with what God is actually doing in your life. He’s working behind the scenes whether you realize it or not! Don’t allow yourself to be tossed around by your emotions any longer. Instead, choose to be stable-minded. Focus your thoughts on the Word of God so you can confidently move forward into the good plan He has designed for you!
A prayer for today
Heavenly Father, thank You for Your Word which is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. I choose to meditate on Your Word knowing that it is the source of strength and faith. Help me to be stable-minded, and I set my focus on You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen

Friday, April 9, 2010

A shift in growth...

I haven't written in a minute, but here I am again! Transitions-transitions, that's all I can say! You know life is no joke and sometimes it has the tendency to really sneak up on you with things to totally alter your plans! I mean to really have the next two years sorta mapped out and then all of a sudden something drastic takes place and your world has seemed to flip, in a way, ( so to speak)! Sometimes I sit back and I think, God what is it that  you're doing in and through my life! What  exactly are you showing me or teaching me or who is it that your using me to be an example for?! That is how my mind works because I'm like, these things must be happening for a reason! I try to live my life obedient to God to my best ability and when I am out of line I always repent and pray so I can remain aligned with my Savior. So I can say that certain things are happening for a reason, because I know that I am in position and God has ordained certain events in my life. So my logic begins to dive into this reasoning with myself and  my connection with the Lord, in order to gain some clarity! Do you all follow me?

    I trust Him 100%, don't get me wrong! I know for me - my life is not my own, it's dedicated to the Lord, and I personally know that if I want to receive all that is in store for me that I must succumb to His leading! Even when it doesn't make sense to me initially, I have to remain trusting the Lord and be prepared for what ever happens! I'm not complaining at all because I realize that I am being used by God, and that is what I always pray...that God may use me for His purpose; but I am just beginning to accept  the fact that all things may not go as I arrange or project. I have always been the kind of person in my past to have my life mapped out with short and long - term goals, because I've always wanted to be in control of my future. Now I still make goals for myself but they're not for my 'self-centered' gain! It's more geared to what is beneficial for My Family: My Husband and Our Kids as well as what God may have placed on my heart! Even though you may devise certain things to go a particular way, the unexpected still occurs! What do you do when this happens? When your heart's desires have seemed to begin to have taken an accidental turn? Perhaps it wasn't an accident, who knows? Who knows the mind of God? To try and begin to even understand what God is doing in my life sometimes is a lot in itself, because I don't always know the next moment or incident that might take place! But, I know God is a perfect God and He will never lead me astray! I guess this is how I begin to really walk by faith in Him and not lean on my own understanding, because that is literally where I am at right now!

   I know in the end of each instance, when it's all said and done;  I cannot lose and it all will work out for my benefit and those who are in my life! That is the confidence that I have in my Savior Jesus Christ. I may not know every single thing before it happens or even as it is happening, but I can guarantee myself, my husband and my kids that it will work out for the good at all times!

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Friday, March 12, 2010

Accepting people for who they are...

Love is a two way street and anyone who claims to have ever loved understands the meaning of selfless love! To allow your heart the possibility of pain and to continue on with courage and bravery is what allows you to overcome the fear itself. Nothing in life is guaranteed, it's what you make of it. You can't expect someone to come into your life and be perfect and never let you down, because that is not realistic. This is how we learn each other, this is how we learn to trust. This is where boundaries are laid and priorities are set in place in  relationships. Not every individual will accept what another one will! (THOUGHT), and vice versa.You cannot assume that your current relationship will be any similar to the last. You cannot even expect for it to be anything other than exactly what it truly is in the very essence. Of course you can work to make it better, but you can't change or force people, it brings about a person and a relationship that is not genuine or true to themselves. It's best to accept people the way that they are and be patient with their timing. Otherwise, try and find the one that is "your perfect mate!"  (THOUGHT)...This is the unique thing about knowing people and allowing yourself to feel. We can't control another human being nor do we have any control on every single incident in our life. The best thing to do is live, love and learn. Live your life to your best ability and try to understand what your purpose is, so you can begin to fulfill it. Love people in your lives and even people that you come across, you may not know if God has brought an Angel before your presence and if we only love those that we know, what contribution are you really making? Learn from all your experiences and don't allow them to make you bitter, life is a learning experience and a journey all it's own! Embrace your life and your loved ones, tomorrow is not promised to any of us...
Until next time, God bless!

Friday, March 5, 2010

A woman's heart should be so hidden in God
that a man has to seek Him just to find her: 

a mans heart has to be so
hidden in God that he can find her, 

once finding her they can be one in
the heart of God.

I gave you my hand and you gave me yours,
And we danced till the night was through.
I gave you my love and you gave me yours,
It was like a dream come true.
I gave you my life and you gave me yours,
It was then I knew true love had begun.
I gave you my heart and you gave me yours,
And now two hearts are one.
D.G.S. 2001


Thursday, March 4, 2010

Against all odds...

In this post I used a lot of scripture as the main focus!

   Glory be to God who is Lord of my life! He is 100% definitely the answer to my problems, the courage to my fears, the boldness to my insecurities! He has never failed me and I trust that He never will! I glorify Him because He is far more than worthy! I magnify His holy name, I exhort Him and bring an offering of praise & worship from my lips! There is none like Him, He is the Alpha & the Omega-my beginning & end... Who has said that the Lord will not perform-has He not shown Himself with miraculous wonders and healings?! There is security in wisdom, therefore get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding! Take firm hold of instruction and do not let go! Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it spring the issues of life. Let your eyes look straight ahead and your eyelids look right before you! Ponder the path of your feet and let all your ways be established. (Some of these verses are taken from the book of Proverbs Chptr.4)
   I write this today because sometimes we just need to re-affirm ourselves; and these things are reminders for me to stay focused and trust the Lord no matter the time or the situation! Being saved is not an easy ride, and Jesus never said it would be easy. In fact scripture tells us "... and if children (of God), then heirs-heirs of God, and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together." (Romans 8:17)  So I looked up suffering in the context that it was used here in Romans. I used my Strong's Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible. This concordance also contains the Greek & Hebrew dictionary! So in my findings; the Greek word for suffering here simply means to experience pain jointly as Christ did! However, we obviously aren't being persecuted in the form of a crucifixion, but life's courses and certain instances in our life may be an abstract comparison of enduring trials & tribulation as Christ did during His earthly ministry! So in taking note of this and following Christ's example, I must persevere and count it all all joy when my flesh is struggling. In these moments my spiritual man is growing as I feed it & submit to the Word of God and follow His lead!

Monday, March 1, 2010

A Proud Woman...

Just Beautiful!!

What makes me weak? My fears.....

What makes me whole? My God.

What keeps me standing? My faith.

What makes me compassionate? My selflessness.

What makes me honest? My integrity.

What sustains my mind?
My quest for knowledge.

What teaches me all lessons? My mistakes.

What lift's my head high? My pride, not arrogance.

What if I can't go on? Not an option.

What makes me victorious? My courage to climb.

What makes me competent? My confidence .

What makes me sensual? My insatiable essence.

What makes me beautiful? My everything.

What makes me a man or woman? My heart .

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

♥To all my new followers, thank you all so very much for the support. I ask that you stay actively involved because I have a few great writing projects coming up that I'm sure you all would enjoy! God Bless...TTYL

Random Thoughts...

Praise the Lord everybody! Please forgive me for not being consistent over the past few weeks, I've been extremely busy! I really just wanted to stop by & let you all know that I'm still here, writing about topics that matter to me! If any of you have any suggestions on a topic or subject that you would like for me to express, let me know!~ I would love to get more involved with you all in that aspect!
   So like I said I've been busy getting a lot of things accomplished, which is a blessing because I'm trying to meet deadlines and time frames, in order to move on to the "Bigger Picture", ya know?! Sometimes my day's go by so fast because for the most part I'm doing 3 things @ once! LOL 
My kids really have a lot of energy, so they contribute to my somewhat chaotic days... They really do keep me focused & grounded indefinitely! ;) My # 1 priority in my life is Jesus and my family - then my career! There has to be a balance when your trying to juggle and maintain many areas in your life fluently! I give honor to my Lord, because without Him, I wouldn't have the strength that I have now to continue on! Thank God for a team player, my husband, thank you honey for your support and loyal friendship that you have provided to me! 
   We can't get so caught up that our daily activities begin to overtake & consume us. I love how a fellow blogger "Journey to Joy" always writes about listening & being still!  We each have a destiny & the decisions that we make now will determine our outcome! Simple...the law of sowing & reaping! Sow peace, optimism, productivity, compassion, etc... & these things you will also reap.
   I pray that my blogs and writings really do touch the heart of at least one individual, because then my purpose has been established, one person @ a time! I'm passionate about my literature and my words, I think twice about what I say & how I respond with my words, because they have power behind them. Sometimes words can penetrate a lot deeper than many of us think! 
   Take time to love and reflect on the people & things that really matter in your life and begin to express that to them more frequently. God is love and Love is power...It can cover a multitude of sins! 
Until next time...God Bless ***TIffany ♥

Friday, February 19, 2010

This is an excerpt from my current book project...

" ... I understand that sometimes it's challenging to step outside of the box and walk into the unknown or the unseen, but for me it was my one and only best option. Change is not easy for most people. It takes a lot of courage and a certain amount of self-esteem to acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. I was steadfast in obtaining my goals and making my dreams a reality. I felt that God gave me a vision for a reason, so it was an urgent need of mine to accomplish the very essence of that. I had refused to be content with settling below my purpose, this wasn't the end for me it was merely my beginning.

   I was presented on numerous occasions with opposition from every angle. I mean left to right and right to left, I had to humble myself and avoid confrontation. I couldn't risk catching another case and getting more time. I had to get home as soon as possible to my child and my life. My faith, temper and tolerance were tested in the countless appearances of adversity.

   People commenced to try and ridicule my faith, my Lord, and my beliefs as if they were insignificant. I lived with atheists while I was there, idol worshipers and the whole nine. The amazing thing of it all is that the same people who opposed me came to respect me in my stand for Jesus and also apologized. This was only after they saw my humility and forgiveness towards them. I am not insinuating that I am an angel or perfect, because nobody is perfect but God Himself. I am only implying the demonstration of the miraculous power of God. I could not have been that patient with my temper prior to being saved, so it is vital to acknowledge from whom this ability came. I have to be blunt concerning this matter because I cannot keep myself, I cannot teach myself, the Holy Spirit faithfully moves on my behalf. What a powerful lesson for me to learn. The very reason that caused me to be in that hellhole was the same battle that I had to overcome. Like I said in the beginning; I use to be a hard-head and God knew exactly how to correct that. I learn best by experience, and what an experience this was."

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Agape' Love...

Someone asked me a question the other day pertaining to real love & long distance relationships, & I was thinking about that question through out my day & how I should respond! I started thinking about how I have had to deal with the trials & long-suffering of what it takes to withstand a challenging experience like this; so this blog post is  very dear to my heart! (Well all my writings are actually...smile). 
   There is something about knowing without- a -doubt that you are with the man/woman that God has sent to you, thus having met the love of your life...so in return you must protect that union. If indeed one has acknowledged that their mate-spouse or fiance is in fact their 'soulmate', then I feel that it is essential to work through the kinks. Is the person worth the wait? Take for example the process in which Eve was created or formed. Eve was made for & from Adam, there was a purpose intended that only Eve/Adam could fulfill for each other! God put Adam to a deep sleep & removed one of his ribs, then once the procedure was over God breathed life into Eve after He formed her from the dust as well! Couldn't God have just simply made Eve?! Of course, but there was a significance in why God took one of Adam's rib's and gave to Eve. God then presented the woman to Adam, & Adam went on to name her: "Woman"...because she had been taken from him, (the womb of Adam), bone of his bone & flesh of his flesh! Think about that! That's mighty in the sight of Jesus, & that's why the enemy is tactful in trying to break up happy & productive homes, families & marriages! We have to persevere through the good & bad times! There was a song, one amongst many, that I use to hear growing up in my household as a child and this one just popped up in my head... "Ain't no mountain high enough..." This song song spoke of a bond that was so strong between 2 individuals that even when things weren't going so well, it was the persistence & loyalty  that didn't allow any distance, time, nor circumstance to interfere with their love! I am reminded of the kind of love that Jesus exhibited for us all! This was a special kinda love, unconditional, pure, undefiled, patient, long-suffering, selfless...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and ENDURES all things! 1 Corinthians 13
This is what continues forever, Agape' LOVE! This type of love is also not easily provoked, therefore it is not easily angered or over-sensitive! Love never gives up, knowing that God can change a person or a situation for the better. 
   It is a process to begin to respond with these characteristics on a consistent basis, but once we inherit the way of the Lord concerning love, imagine how much more content you will become, patient, and forgiving! It's easier said then done, but the nature of loving another person is a learning experience because each of us are individuals and none of us are perfect, so we all have flaws, in one way or another! The important thing is joining together as an union & practicing these percepts, in order to receive the fullness of the true meaning of love! Love is an action just like faith...the emotion is behind the action , but the action is what speaks & produces results! 
Until next time: Peace & love in the Name of Jesus!  ;)...God bless***Tiffany

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Hidden Treasures

Beauty in  Shape or Looks won't last,
but Beauty in Heart & Soul are meant Forever!
I titled this one, 'Hidden Treasure", because to me - that is where true beauty resides! It resides in the hidden treasure of one's heart & soul! Outer appearances are important to many people, & I must admit, to me as well to a certain extent -  however it doesn't determine who I am as a woman, especially being a woman of God! In my opinion Beauty is the inner being shinning brighter than the outward man - with examples such as: loyalty, loving kindness, meekness, strength, & pure virtue that rest's in the core-being of  individuals. (Obviously there is much more to be said about inner beauty, but this is my brief explanation.) It is the essence of who we are, what we represent! How we treat one another- & how we consider the feelings of other people! Outer appearance is merely as superficial as it appears to be, it simply is just what you see. There is much more to many people than just the embodiment that is before you! Take my husband for example, when I initially met him I thought that he was a handsome man, but once I began to speak with him & held an intellectual conversation with him I found out that he had a lot more beauty to offer me as my soul mate! I saw that as he revealed his inner person to me that it was more intensity to him than what appeared, this in my eyes made my husband a beautiful human being to me, because he had depth and a positive identity & energy! You cannot determine the worth of a person based solely on the way their face is shaped, by how small or big their lips are, by the length of their hair- nor by the size of their body! When you begin to know a person for who they really are you then have the opportunity to see the beautiful or ugly nature that encompasses them! I consider myself to be a beautiful woman, but it is not because my body is perfect nor that my face is exceptional based on society's standards; it is because of the light that shines through my outer shell & it radiates my inner & outer beauty as a whole. It is not broken up in facets which suggest a particular, singled out feature as the natural-shallow mind would see; but instead it creates an entire-fulfilled glimpse of who Tiffany really is! Every person's beauty is unique & different, as they say, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" . It is like gathering three different people together to glance at an art painting and then asking them all what did they see! Each one would say that they saw something different than the next individual that glanced @ the picture, however I'm sure they would all agree that the entire picture was beautiful or interesting in some way before their sight! Do you understand where I am coming from?! Most people hold their own rare beauty & I say 'most' because some people may not understand the character of beauty to possess it quite yet.. The point is that you will not receive anything from anyone based on what you see as the outer appearance of a person, however you will receive from the inner depth or shallowness of the personality with whom you are dealing with; because we know that it is the personality of a person that makes up who that person is! 
God knows & searches the hearts & mind of all men!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

A Poetic Ancestor

 This is just a blog post that provides a bit of history of one of my ancestors pertaining to literature! This is something that I was not taught in school, but through research I sought out some informing information. It is inspiring to me as well - especially in my field of work. Her belief system was different as mine, but her accomplishments are recognized.

Phillis Wheatley: Writer/Author/Poet

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Phillis Wheatley, as illustrated by Scipio Moorhead in the Frontispiece to her book Poems on Various Subjects.
Phillis Wheatley (1753 – December 5, 1784) was the first African American poet and the first African-American woman whose writings were published.[1] Born in Gambia, Senegal, she was enslaved at age seven. She was purchased by the Wheatley family of Boston, who taught her to read and write, and helped encourage her poetry.
The 1773 publication of Wheatley's Poems on , Religious and Moral brought her fame, with figures such as George Washington praising her work. Wheatley also visited England for five weeks accompanying her 'Brother' Nathaniel and was praised in a poem by fellow African American poet Jupiter Hammon. Wheatley was emancipated by her owners after her poetic success.[2]
   With the 1774 publication of Wheatley's book Poems on Various Subjects, she "became the most famous African on the face of the earth."[6] Voltaire stated in a letter to a friend that Wheatley had proved that black people could write poetry. John Paul Jones asked a fellow officer to deliver some of his personal writings to "Phillis the African favorite of the Nine (muses) and Apollo."[6] She was also honored by many of America's founding fathers, including George Washington.
Wheatley's book is today seen as helping create the genre of African American literature.[7]
She is honored as the first African American woman to publish a book and the first to make a living[?] from her writing.[8]
There is a building named in her honor at the University of Massachusetts Boston.
In 2002, scholar Molefi Kete Asante listed Phillis Wheatley on his list of 100 Greatest African Americans.[9]

Fred Hammond: No greater love...


Tuesday, February 2, 2010

The kids are our future!

This is a video of a an anointed little girl, who knows God for herself at the tender age of 3! Please watch! 

Black History

Monday, February 1, 2010

 Let me apologize for a piece of incorrect info that I gave on my blog titled repentance. I quoted 
2 Corinthians 7:10...however I mistakenly wrote down 2 Corinthians 8:10... please make a note of this! Thank you!

Protect & believe in your dreams...

I have been away for a couple of days, I had some prioritizing to do! Now I'm back... I am so excited that I just completed the third chapter to my book! Initially I was going to make it a 10-12 chapter book, but that's a lot for a Memoir. So, I think I'm going to shrink it down to around 8-9 chapter's. That should be a good size. What do you guy's think? My goal is to have it completed in 4 months. I'm sure I could do it! My husband and I should be visiting NY in the summer, so I definitely want to have a majority of my book completed by then, so I can make some face to face contacts while in NY City! My husband is my manager, so I know that I'm in good hands, I just have to start searching for a Literary Agent and begin sending off my Query Letters  and so forth. It is definitely a long journey with a lot of hard work, but  I know it is within arms reach! I am motivated and goal orientated and I know that nothing is impossible with God, so my dreams are going to come to pass. I just have to stay focused and driven and that is exactly what I intend to do! Over the pass couple of day's I was on a consecration and it really gave me time to reflect on the more important things in my life. Where I need to focus my attention & energy to mostly & how I need to go about doing those things. Prayer is my way of receiving guidance & my heart's desires from the Lord, and it is also how I receive my assurance for my future. I'm going to be making a big change in my life real soon( I will share with you all when this marvelous time comes), and this experience alone is a wonderful blessing in disguise. It will afford me the opportunity to study abroad and to experience another culture. The Lord is guiding my life and directing me down  the path that He see's fit and for what is most beneficial for myself and my family.  I am grateful to God for bestowing His tender mercies and grace upon my life. I live to please Him and bring glory & honor to His holy name! Take time to get in touch with the Creator of life and find your purpose and mission in life. It is at this point that you can live freely and truly be pleased with your hearts passion and receive His blessings in abundance. Hard times will come but you will have the Comforter to keep you, to give you hope and maintain you with His strengths. Nothing is too hard to endure when you have the Most High on your side! Pursue your passions, accomplish your dreams and reach high! Until next time...Be blessed...***Tiffany

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Hello fellow reader's & writer's!

I want to extend a courtesy pertaining to my non-activity for the rest of this week! I shall return on Saturday the 30th... Talk to you all soon!

Monday, January 25, 2010


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from a person who is wronged. In religious contexts it usually refers to confession to God, ceasing sin against God, and resolving to live according to religious law. It typically includes an admission of guilt, a promise or resolve not to repeat the offense; an attempt to make restitution for the wrong, or in some way to reverse the harmful effects of the wrong where possible.
.. A description of repentance in the New Testament can be found in the parable of the prodigal son found in the Gospel of Luke (15 beginning at verse 11). 


2 Corinthians 7:10   "For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death. For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: What diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation , what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter." 

This scripture offers hope for us all. It allows us to be aware of  the fact that although we make an error we can get it right while there is still time! We can go to the Lord of Hosts, humbly and sincerely, and offer up our prayer of repentance and in return receive the greatest gift of all- forgiveness! The ultimate sacrifice of Jesus dying on the tree (cross) was God Himself-reincarnated as Man, the Word becoming flesh... (St. John 1:1-14)! Jesus taken all sin upon Himself, so we in turn can live an abundant life, saved and covered by the blood of Jesus! Hallelujah-that's joy for me! Repentance is absolutely essential for our salvation from God! To be aware of the fact that we do need a Savior to look after us through the power & guidance of His Holy Spirit...to teach us and use us as a tool, an ambassador to spread the gospel of Christ Jesus! So yes this is our first step...acknowledging God for who He is in His complete Deity, believing that He was, He is & He whom is to come...and that He did indeed rise on the third day after His crucifixion! Going to the Lord in prayer & repenting from our pass conduct and making a conscious decision & effort to get aligned with The King of Kings is our first step to living an obedient life to Christ, the Author & Finisher of our faith!

Friday, January 22, 2010

Truly blessed.. Count your blessings!

This blog is not an effort to condemn the Nation of Haiti, however it is intended to do just the opposite! It is to acknowledge the tragedy that has taken place and to take a moment to reflect on the many blessings in our own individual lives. Imagine being in their shoes or having family or friends that have a strong connection to the many losses that have taken place! Sometimes it seems like certain things in life don't really effect us until it hit's home or even close to home! Many of us are blessed, I know that I am... especially when I look around and see the devastation in the world, I realize that it could have easily been me; maybe not with a physical earthquake, but in the form of personal earthquakes that shake up our own life and situation! Not every family, nation or country may have the same favor or luxuries that many of us do & it's important to look outside of the box from time to time and consider the many afflicted hearts around you! Maybe it's a loved one, maybe a close friend, maybe a co-worker! It's easier to ignore other people's struggle & focus on our own 'problems'...but God has called us to brotherly love and compassion! His ministry consisted of reaching out to the widow's, the prostitutes, the tax collector's... the so-called BAD people! My point is that maybe you are the light or the love that another person needs in their life, don't be afraid to let your light shine! It's a hurting and dying world and we can play our part to take the time to have compassion on another individual! To have a basic compassion for other people and their situation is mandatory, especially in today's society! 
   I cannot help but to swell up with emotion from the disturbing images that are before me as I gaze attentively upon Anderson Cooper's live coverage on the nation of Haiti! There is a lot that can be done by us, the American people! It is a humane responsibility of us all to consider their afflictions and attempt to do our small part! Maybe it's money, maybe it's creating awareness of the severity of their current state, or simply just supporting by prayer! I believe that God is in control of all things in heaven and on earth, but prayer changes things and God is a merciful God! These people are obviously dealing with more than just the effects of a "common" earthquake! 
   A lot of times in life we take for granted the liberties that we do have by being Americans! There are other countries who do not share the same type of democracy, civilization or even opportunities that we have here in the USA! I am a child of God and I do realize the many blessings that have been placed on my life and I know they are not to retain them all for myself! Let's love a little harder and forgive a lot quicker, we don't have time to waste! Until next time I bid you God's speed! ***Tiffany

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

A Special Poem Titled : How Serene!

How serene... the thought of embracing life's precious treasures, receiving gifts from up high-sent down below-to heal our heart's and free our souls, to touch our minds and lighten the load! How serene... a glimpse into your loved ones eye's, only to see true love reside, what a fortune-without calamity; To receive your hearts desire which carry no deceit, to hopelessly fall in love with the man/woman of your dreams...How serene to share, to care, to laugh freely, to capture the essence of belief... to watch your dreams unfold right before your sight! How serene I ask-how serene?!
   The journey was a ride, and yet it still remains- but this path I do not regret I learned powerful lessons along the way.  Have you ever heard of unconditional love, well I'm learning it today-and the more & more that I learn I realize my love cannot be swayed... not away from you or your light which is hidden deep inside-because I'll continually, faithfully pray for our radiance to glow together as bright as the first sunrise! Are you my soul's mate or is that just mere fantasy?! Well in my book a fantasy is pure romance and together we've created a tangible reality!

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Love, Unity & Sacrifice

I just want to touch on a general topic this evening concerning relationships and the challenges of sacrificing.
  I know for me, I always try to remember the feelings of others, reflecting as if the shoe was on the other foot. I don't see myself as a double standard person, nor is that the mind frame that I desire to possess. Sometimes it is difficult for one to sacrifice they're way of doing things for the suitability of another person, and this is understandable. However, when there is a bigger picture involved or a person that means a lot more than the sacrifice itself, it may be beneficial.
  It is very important to be able to have the mindset to respect your spouse's opinions and feelings; but in order to have the capacity to do so, you must love yourself first. To love is to begin with loving one's self and allowing the love of God to shine through; therefore it wouldn't be difficult to 'exemplify' the act of loving. In doing so, you will demonstrate the type of love that you desire and in turn, you will also receive. 
   In my life there are certain things that I have sacrificed or compromised with for the sake and prosperity of my marriage and our family! Likewise, my husband has done the same. We may not agree 100% with the idea of the suggestion or situation that requires a bit of compromising...but once you hear the principle behind the matter you begin to understand the point of view that is being presented. It will not be comfortable, but for the most part it's very necessary for the mutual respect that is being giving and also received!  Marriage is basically a give and take relationship. I speak on this from the heart, obviously I am not a marriage counselor or a psych...but my life's experiences equip me to share my voice with others, with the hopes that I can offer some sound advice to any other individual or group of people that may be familiar with these topics.
   Scripture speaks of  submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. The husband as being the head of the household and loving his wife as he loves himself, (Ephesians 5:20-33). Proverbs 31:10-31 educates women on how to be a virtuous woman, (I wrote on the qualities of a virtuous woman in a previous blog)... Scripture also speaks of the husband treating the wife as he would treat himself, and the wife giving reverence to her own husband! I am my husband's Queen as he is my King as well. We each have our individual role or place in our marriage. Some may not agree with me, but in life everyone has they're own personification to uphold, so for me having that individual to share the same qualities, goals, morals with, is absolutely essential to me. Not having that initial connection will have the entire relationship very abstract to begin with. My husband is not a demanding person so when he makes a request -  I know it's not coming from a place of domination or manipulation, so it's not arduous to revere his reasoning; I respect it and acknowledge his feelings.  Of course I may not feel the same way that he feels concerning his standpoint, but through discussion and close consideration we come to a compromise and a mutual agreement. This keeps our marriage strong through communication and bonds us closer together. By neither one of us being selfish or stubborn in the efforts of only trying to prove a point, we become more and more as one, standing sturdy in UNITY! Marriage is one of the most sacred and powerful unions that man can obtain from the Lord. Carry your marriage with humility, agape' love, forgiveness, peace, trust & loyalty. Most importantly keep God first as the glue that holds and bonds your marriage together for life! Until next time fellow blogger's and reader's...be blessed ***Tiffany

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Good things come to those who wait...

Patience IS a virtue & nothing good comes easy!
 We live in a society that is geared towards instant gratification in the form of many different things and areas of life. For some of us it's awaiting the big promotion for that big corner office... how about anticipating the arrival of  Mr./Mrs. 'right'?! Maybe it's more profound, like expecting an answer from God regarding a long hoped for prayer to come into flourition! Plain & simple it's not an easy prcoess at all, not knowing exactly the time nor the day that your need/want will be met! This is exactly why God tells us to walk by faith and not by sight, (2 Corinthians 5:7), and to cast all of your cares upon Him, for He cares for you! (1Peter 5:7)  

Not allowing ourselves to endure the "process" only leaves us with the short end of the stick, for not allowing one's self to reap the full benefits of what was due! God has a plan for His flock as written in Jeremiah 29:11..."For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end..."

As written above - along with the rose..."Impatience is a deadly poison to most blossoming things. Impatience is your brain saying, I can't be happy till... Patience is enjoying (embracing) the process as much as the results." Yes it is definitely easier said than done, believe me I know, but once I take my mind off of the problem and focus on the Problem Solver, then all my worries fade away! It is a virtue because not many people can lay hold of patience... it is a moral character & standard as well! Anything worth fighting for, anything worth waiting for will not be an easy ride, but the end result of that matter will be a huge blessing!

I just wanted to encourage some of you this evening with words of wisdom and insight. I pray & hope that these words will resinate in your spirit and in your mind, but most importantly through your faith and reveal itself in your actions. I have allowed the process of patience to benefit me, & I know that it will benefit you as well!
Until next time...Be Blessed ***Tiffany Mullings

Thursday, January 7, 2010

The end times...


 As I mentioned in a previous blog, "time is coming & going even quicker as the years progress!" Last night @ Bible study we spoke of, THE END TIMES! Read this scripture from 1 Thessalonians 5...(New King James Version)

5 But concerning the times and the seasons, bretheren, you have no need that I should write to you. 2 For you yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so comes as a thief in the night. 3 For when they say,"Peace and safety!" then sudden destruction comes upon them, as labor pains upon a pregnant woman. And they shall not escape...

vs. 8 ...But let us who are of the day be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love, and as a helmet the hope of salvation. 9 For God did not appoint us to wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, 10 who died for us, that whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with Him.
      11 Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing.

   These particular verses of the Bible are very powerful & if you pay close attention, prophetic as well. We will not know the time nor day of the coming of the Lord, but as you can read in the entire book of Revelation, it is revealed to us - the events that will take place... as a sign of the end of times! The scriptures that I quoted above tells us that we must have faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, as we receive with love His sacrifice of salvation. He allowed Himself to be beaten the entire way to Calvary to die on a tree, for the remission of your sins and mine. This was His sole purpose of the miraculous conception that took place some 2,000 years ago!
    Please follow me... We realize that new technology includes the implanting of the RFID CHIP into humans. It is becoming widely known amongst many of us as a device that has the ability to retrieve medical info in the case of an emergency, also used as a form of 'security', and soon to be known as a convenient way to purchase as well."

Open your Bible to read Revelation 13 6-18...

Need I say more? We must realize the signs of the times and pay close attention to what is going on in the world around us. Do not be ignorant of Satans devices or schemes. It is extremely vital to accept the gift of salvation from our Lord and Saviour and to be guarded for your soul's sake.

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