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Saturday, January 16, 2010

Love, Unity & Sacrifice

I just want to touch on a general topic this evening concerning relationships and the challenges of sacrificing.
  I know for me, I always try to remember the feelings of others, reflecting as if the shoe was on the other foot. I don't see myself as a double standard person, nor is that the mind frame that I desire to possess. Sometimes it is difficult for one to sacrifice they're way of doing things for the suitability of another person, and this is understandable. However, when there is a bigger picture involved or a person that means a lot more than the sacrifice itself, it may be beneficial.
  It is very important to be able to have the mindset to respect your spouse's opinions and feelings; but in order to have the capacity to do so, you must love yourself first. To love is to begin with loving one's self and allowing the love of God to shine through; therefore it wouldn't be difficult to 'exemplify' the act of loving. In doing so, you will demonstrate the type of love that you desire and in turn, you will also receive. 
   In my life there are certain things that I have sacrificed or compromised with for the sake and prosperity of my marriage and our family! Likewise, my husband has done the same. We may not agree 100% with the idea of the suggestion or situation that requires a bit of compromising...but once you hear the principle behind the matter you begin to understand the point of view that is being presented. It will not be comfortable, but for the most part it's very necessary for the mutual respect that is being giving and also received!  Marriage is basically a give and take relationship. I speak on this from the heart, obviously I am not a marriage counselor or a psych...but my life's experiences equip me to share my voice with others, with the hopes that I can offer some sound advice to any other individual or group of people that may be familiar with these topics.
   Scripture speaks of  submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. The husband as being the head of the household and loving his wife as he loves himself, (Ephesians 5:20-33). Proverbs 31:10-31 educates women on how to be a virtuous woman, (I wrote on the qualities of a virtuous woman in a previous blog)... Scripture also speaks of the husband treating the wife as he would treat himself, and the wife giving reverence to her own husband! I am my husband's Queen as he is my King as well. We each have our individual role or place in our marriage. Some may not agree with me, but in life everyone has they're own personification to uphold, so for me having that individual to share the same qualities, goals, morals with, is absolutely essential to me. Not having that initial connection will have the entire relationship very abstract to begin with. My husband is not a demanding person so when he makes a request -  I know it's not coming from a place of domination or manipulation, so it's not arduous to revere his reasoning; I respect it and acknowledge his feelings.  Of course I may not feel the same way that he feels concerning his standpoint, but through discussion and close consideration we come to a compromise and a mutual agreement. This keeps our marriage strong through communication and bonds us closer together. By neither one of us being selfish or stubborn in the efforts of only trying to prove a point, we become more and more as one, standing sturdy in UNITY! Marriage is one of the most sacred and powerful unions that man can obtain from the Lord. Carry your marriage with humility, agape' love, forgiveness, peace, trust & loyalty. Most importantly keep God first as the glue that holds and bonds your marriage together for life! Until next time fellow blogger's and reader's...be blessed ***Tiffany


Timberwolf123 said...

Hi Tiffany thanks for coming over & reading my blog. Think you have a good grasp on this subject but I would add that love needs to begin from within yourself. To many people are "looking for love". We need to love ourselves & radiate that love outward to others, then we will have more love in our lives then we can even imagine. The same is true for marriage, love yourself & then love your spouse, if we always come from a place of love first & keep our EGO in check will will have wonderful relationships with everyone in our lives & of course starting with our spouse.

Keep up the great work!



Sally Lee™ said...

Beautiful post, Tiffany. You have reminded me of many things which I needed to be reminded of...thank you. My husband & I appreciate it!


Tamara said...

The only thing I will add to this my cousin is " Thank You." Continue to be the voice.

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